First Episode - A Response
Tom Waits summed it up well:
"Come down off the cross, We can use the wood". I concur.
Anyone remember the end of Broadcast News?
posted by Matt Moline @ 6:10 PM
Monday, May 28, 2007
"Come down off the cross, We can use the wood". I concur.
Anyone remember the end of Broadcast News?
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"The best revenge is being happier than they are"... my mom
good luck with the training, I'm rooting for you
You have never told your side of the story, to my knowledge anyway...so, make a statement. Put things on the record.
Did you take money that did not belong to you without the knowledge or permission of your ex?
That is kind of a deal breaker for me. Trust is everything...without it you have no relationship.
As I read your posts, I can only imagine what you have gone through emotionally, mentally and physically-things that only you will ever truly know the depths of. Your entire life is no longer as it was, and that sudden, extreme and rapid change could have destroyed you. Instead, you dealt with what you needed to, realized and worked on your errors, and are living YOUR life. Although you don't know me from a hole in the wall, I am truly happy for you and the positive changes that have resulted. Living a life of lies, pretending to be someone you're not can break your spirit, but now you are alive again. You don't owe anyone an explaination for anything-life is too short to be miserable. I admire your courage and look forward to reading more.
Ibislander, I have told my side of the story countless times to friends, family, and acquaintances over the past 36 years. If I ever meet you and we have a chance to talk, I will be glad to fill you in on what happened in my life in the 6 1/2 years I spent with Kathy. However, I won't release a public statement regarding the circumstances of my divorce. There is nothing positive that can happen to me from engaging in a public he said, she said battle with my ex. Publicity isn't going to help me with anything.
I can't imagine how I would have composed myself if 1/2 of my divorce had been played out on TV.
Silence is golden. The push to air dirty laundry is a sham. You're focusing on more important things and moving on. Don't let anyone morbid desire to know the intimate details of your past deter you from your current path.
There, that's my two cents.
this post made me laugh. i love saying that to people on the very odd occasion where it is appropriate (or terribly inappropriate? not sure which is correct in this instance).
all the best with your training.
Will miss seeing you on TV and your ironic/sarcastic sense of humor. Do take care. Living well is the best revenge.
Matt,
I totally respect you for that decision. You took the high road even when some pretty damaging accusations were made. Good for you.
I wish you all the best with your training. If your'e even in Philly let me know!
I need to lose 20 pounds and I have run out of excuses! Time to get serious and get on the bike.
Good luck!
You know, I just read this post, then read the post of December 15, 2006. So you get the right to have normal emotions about the "pain and shame" of failures in your life (like we all have) and your ex-wife doesn't?
How about some humility?
I wish I could have emailed this to you...
Last night when Kathy said, "I don't think he ever loved me.." I felt very sorry for her, but also shocked because even from the small part of your lives together that the public saw, it seemed as though you loved her very much. It makes me sad that she would feel that way now & (without knowing your side) your comment about the episode seems harsh.
Hi,Matt! I watched the new season of Kathy's show and it really stunk without you! Her monster ego is really out of control w/o you there to keep her balanced. I feel sorry for her (why did she have separate accounts that she was stashing money in anyway?) for ruining the best part of her life over some petty thing that has nothing to do with real happiness. I hope that you are getting tons of attention from beautiful, healthy, fun, smart and sexy girls because you deserve to! You were the best part of D-list - you made me laugh and I really liked watching you! Best of luck to you!
Melly J
I just LOVE how strangers believe that they know the entire history and character of a person simply because they watched him or her on a few episodes of reality television. During the broadcast, I must have missed the disclaimer that gave the general public the right to judge.
The truth is, we weren't there, and even if we were, that still doesn't give us the right to make snide comments or pass judgement.
Best of luck w/Ironman, you deserve happiness. If you're ever in Atlanta, I'll buy you a Coke.
Matt,
In my opinion, your comment is just plain mean and unnecessary. I realize no one but a husband and wife can fully understand what is really going on in their marriage. But, in my opinion, your comment is inappropriate at best.
Good luck with your ironman event as well as the rest of your life. I enjoyed watching you on D-list. The episode I remember best is the one where you commented on how the rainbow represents God's promise. Forgiveness is a part of that promise. I hope you find your's for yourself and others.
Dixie
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Matt,
I understand your not wanting to engage in a public "war of words", but doesn't it rankle a bit to publicly have your character asassinated? Do you ever feel like you need to defend yourself especially if the accusations are untrue?
I understand your point, i really do. It would be hard for me to let someone say something like that about me and portray me as a bad person lacking in basic moral integrity if I didn't deserve it.
You're a better man than I am, I guess. (Especially since I'm a woman..ha!)
Good luck with the training, Matt! Miss seeing you on the show!
SP
It absolutely pisses me off beyond belief to have my character assassinated in public and I'd really like to fight back. The truth is that Kathy will always have the last word in any public argument because she has a TV show and standup gigs in which she could endlessly respond to what I've said. Eventually, my 15 minutes would end (as it gladly already has) and nothing would have changed. What's the point of that?
The truth is that Kathy will always have the last word in any public argument because she has a TV show and standup gigs in which she could endlessly respond to what I've said. Eventually, my 15 minutes would end (as it gladly already has) and nothing would have changed.
Then perhaps you should refrain from acerbic one-sided posts such as this one?
Why are fans of Matt's ex posting here?? Why not go to her blog(s)??
Leave Matt alone!!
If I can't make acerbic one sided posts on a personal blog that, until this week, was getting 2-3 visitors a day, what's the point of having a blog?
Matt,
I am a fan of yours.
From the D-list episode I mentioned earlier as well as one featuring your parents, I have an idea that there are spiritual issues at hand here as well.
Also, thank you for blogging. After reading your's, I was inspired to chronicle my middle-aged journey to complete my doctorate by age 50 all while teaching high school.
Dixie
PS
It would be easy to delete the negative comments or just not publish any comments, but you have chosen to do the right thing. That shows a lot of integrity.
You are absolutely right, Matt. I thought about that after I posted.
It's something I'm learning the older I get that sometimes the best response is no response. With some people, no matter how you respond they will never admit guilt or accept responsibility for their own part in the situation. The only thing that happens is your blood pressure goes sky high and the whole thing deteriorates into an argument and a war of words that never ends.
I just have to believe that what goes around, comes around and that, sometimes, karma is a real bitch. :)
Matt, i saw Kathy cry about the loss of her marriage on the show. i heard her say she thought you never loved her. But i know you did. i saw the gentle ways you touched her, and you kissed her forehead, and just the little things that prove you love someone. yes, you made a mistake and i'm sorry you and Kathy were unable to work this out. i never hated you, i always thought maybe you and K would work this out. i loved seeing your wit and sarcasm on tv. that is another reason i felt you were well suited for each other. i don't mean to bring up sad memories and i really did not want to upset you. just to let you know, i am sorry it did not work, and not everyone hates you. many of us are hoping that you and Kathy can be friends someday soon. She said she misses her best friend, and i know you and Kathy had a great friendship-inside the marriage. i loved watching you both interact. i miss you on the show, and i wish you well. i know it's none of our business what happened, and i don't judge either of you. just wish you happiness. ColleenT
Matt can write whatever he wants, and when he does so on a blog, on the internet, with comments activated, so can we.
That's life.
And I appreciate the comments
I MUST KNOW!!!! What happened at the end of Broadcast News?? PLEASE!!
Ok I DON'T know what happened at the end of Broadcast News. You can't throw a comment out there like that and then not explain it when someone asks....what, do I have to go rent the movie? PLEASE, someone, tell me what it means!!! thanks!
William Hurt's character uses tears to promote himself and further his career
Thanks for responding, now I get it!
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I liked you til I came here. My lengthy comment has been removed because frankly, you don't merit the attention. Good luck in finding your own life and money, and watch out, Karma is just over your shoulder, sounds like it's catching up...
Hey Matt,
I'm a gay, so of course I like KG's sense of humor. That said, you were one of the highlights of the show, and I can only assume of Kathy's life as well. While trust is everything in a relationship, money is not. Without knowing the whole story, I can only say it is a fool who is so worshipful of "her" money that a spouse who spends it without prior consent is summarily dismissed as an untrustworthy pretender. (Or maybe that's not what happened at all.) Personally, I don't think that one can "steal" money from a spouse. Doesn't a partnership that is supposed to be a lifelong, comprehensive intimacy cover bank accounts too? If not, I would question the commitment of one or both parties.
It really says something about KGs lack of integrity that she would choose to disclose details about your relationship that would reflect so poorly on you without giving you any real means of defending yourself. Perhaps you did something truly awful, but that doesn't justify character assassination in the mass media.
Those of us who tend to support you in all this can only wonder why it is that you are so reluctant to tell your side of the story. Even if it not flattering to you, or even downright humiliating, wouldn't you rather have the truth be known? If you can't square things on your own blog, what's the point?
Hey Matt,
I'm a gay, so of course I like KG's sense of humor. That said, you were one of the highlights of the show, and I can only assume of Kathy's life as well. While trust is everything in a relationship, money is not. Without knowing the whole story, I can only say it is a fool who is so worshipful of "her" money that a spouse who spends it without prior consent is summarily dismissed as an untrustworthy pretender. (Or maybe that's not what happened at all.) Personally, I don't think that one can "steal" money from a spouse. Doesn't a partnership that is supposed to be a lifelong, comprehensive intimacy cover bank accounts too? If not, I would question the commitment of one or both parties.
It really says something about KGs lack of integrity that she would choose to disclose details about your relationship that would reflect so poorly on you without giving you any real means of defending yourself. Perhaps you did something truly awful, but that doesn't justify character assassination in the mass media.
Those of us who tend to support you in all this can only wonder why it is that you are so reluctant to tell your side of the story. Even if it not flattering to you, or even downright humiliating, wouldn't you rather have the truth be known? If you can't square things on your own blog, what's the point?
I gagged when I saw the first show and she was sobbing about "losing" you! I only wish I had someone who supported me as much as you supported her. I hope you find someone who deserves you. And she can find someone who deserves her. You'll come out the winner, I suspect. Still, it's got to be hard to hear all that said about you. Just believe that there are many who don't believe everything they hear. Hang in there!
"Those of us who tend to support you in all this can only wonder why it is that you are so reluctant to tell your side of the story. Even if it not flattering to you, or even downright humiliating, wouldn't you rather have the truth be known? If you can't square things on your own blog, what's the point?"
Frankly, one would assume that the "ex" made Matt sign a "non-disclosure agreement", thus boxing him into an even further corner. And frankly, it's really none of our business. We don't have the "right to know", even if we are Matt fans.
I loved the Matt montage with the tears as though you were dead. Esp. that they only showed you at your heavy weight!
I laughed at the "tender side" of fame. Very fake and phony...
Stay Real.
You're so pathetic and your silence is completely transparent.
I know that you probably can't respond but she's talks a lot about money situations. My MIL is a lot like this and she's always convinced that people are stealing from her. It's some sort of disorder and I wouldn't be surprised if this is some of what's KGs problem is. She is also friends with other well known whack jobs, so that's another sign as to her mental status IMO.
Matt, you've shown a lot of class by not attacking KG. You were like a slave to her. There's no way that you would have been a mastermind to take some wierd, relatively small amount of money and still put up with what you did. Hold your head up and keep moving on....
I'm a fan of the show, therefore yours as well as hers, and read nothing of your divorce situation in the media or online until I ran across a link to your response today. My only comment is that greiving for a loss of love is a legitimate emotion after a divorce, I can assume, and her remark is not atypical to what every divorced woman feels. Your retort though was sharper than I would think a real man's. I'm no less a fan- but it's obvious you meant for a stinger and that stung.
Matt,
Good luck to you. You seem like a real person. Too bad you got mixed up with a Caliphonian. Next time stick with the real people wo work for their money and aren't concerned with who is looking at them. D-List, my ass. She'd a publicity whore and would love to be one of the people she laughs at so she could look down her nose at us.
Matt it just seems like it was your time to be swept under the carpet. She alienated "her gays" and they dumped her. She was rejected by "The View". If she drops any lower they may need to consider creating a new letter after "Z". She is not a pretty person either physically or emotionally. You made the right choice to jump.
I was a BIG fan of the show and I loved your relationship with Kathy. I thought you were henpecked, but that's celebrities for you.
All of that changed when Kathy got on Larry King and gave that whole routing about how you "stole" money from her.
Joke-girl, puh-leeze. You guys were married, you lived in a community property state. There is no "my" money in that situation, it's "our" money.
Lots of husbands don't like the way their wives spend money, either, but they don't have the balls to call it stealing.
I lost all respect for Kathy Griffin after that.
To add to my earlier statement, just wanted to say that Matt saying "nothing" is taking the high road. (I almost wrote "Bravo to you, Matt!" and then thought better of it...Sorry. You know what I mean.) Anyway, Kathy's "explanation" of the whole situation spoke volumes for me and told his side of the story more than she thought it would. It made me side with him much more than her. That was before the crocodile tears!
:-)
i am just so sorry that people are attacking the 2 of you. and taking sides, when they do not know the entire truth.
once there was a loving marriage and friendship. to lose that hurts everyone involved. i just wish you both happiness and healing.
marriage is private and even tho we saw some of the show, does not mean we know you or Kathy.
Still wishing for a truce that would be a friendship. but i guess wounds are still too painful to consider that. i am proud of you for turning your life into a positive experience. good luck to you in all your endeavors. healing begins with forgiveness. someday maybe.. you can forgive and have peace.
I wish I knew the whole story so I could really weigh in.
I can only comment on what I have heard...
If you really did take money from the accounts without telling her, sneaking the debit cards when she was asleep, etc., that is definitely grounds for leaving someone.
My husband has taken money from our account without telling me, causing us to bounce checks, etc. Its not that its "my money" or "his money"...its that its OUR money.
I wouldn't go and spend $200 on, let's say, a spa day for myself without making sure that money wasn't earmarked for something else. I would expect the same courtesy from him, in making sure we agreed that the money was okay to take for whatever it was he wanted to spend it on.
I have heard that you had a gambling problem, which (if true) would explain why you took the money. But that still wouldn't make it any less hurtful to the person who was married to you.
But like I said earlier, I don't know all of the facts, so I cannot fully form an opinion or take sides.
That said, I am a big fan of Kathy's humor and am going to see her show this Saturday night.
But I also wish you the best and hope that great things happen for you!!
There doesn't always have to be a villain.
Matt, we don't know the details of your split but I notice Kathy replaced you with 2-3 people who will certainly cost her more then $75K per year.
With the money Kathy makes, $75K is no big deal.
If my wife takes money out of my wallet, that's OK with me because she'd only take what she needed.
Maybe she'll come to miss you as time goes by - my advice is make it easy for her to come back.
bart
Sorry, I don't know about your marriages but my husband does not "sneak" money from our account behind my back.
I don't know about you, or you gay dude, but that isn't a partnership. If for some reason, you need $$$, you should be able to tell your wife/husband what you're taking out and what you're gonna get with that...if for some reason, you can't do that, then something is obviously up.
I'm not saying you always need permission but if you ain't able to spill da beans, you gots a problem.
Secondly, I saw the previews from next weeks show about Kathy getting the call that her dad is in the ICU (he passed in Feb) and her crying in that episode seems very similar to the crying she did about the marriage, IMHO I believe her...but to each their own.
Hi Matt,
I don't know what happened between you and Kathy. And why should I?? It should be private. It takes 2 normally to be in a realtionship. I love Kathy and I loved her show. But I must say that it really let me down when she "told all" on Larry King. I just thought she would take the high road. Just wondering, did you talk to her when her Dad died. He seemed like such a nice guy, I feel really sad for her loss.
Take Care,
Lynn
Oh Yeah, and I remember the end of Broadcast News! Its one of my favorite movies...
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Matt, you are truly pathetic. Sneaking money behind your spouses back, and then thinking in some twisted way it is not stealing, if it was not then why did you not tell her each time you went to the ATM while she slept? No guilt or remorse for you I guess. Then to say K's tears were fake, you know she loved you deeply. The only person being fake is you. THIEF!
Kiayonta,
Since when in marriage is their "MY" money and "YOUR" money. That is a sad and superficial way to live. I think Kathy may regret her love for her money some day as a lonley woman. Although I am a big fan of Kathy's, I am greatly disappointed in her putting money above her relationship.
Hi, Matt. I was glad to find your blog because I wondered how you were doing since we last saw you on the show.
I love Kathy's humor, and I have to say that while it seemed like you and Kathy loved each other, at times you didn't appear very happy.
I can't say that I'd be incredibly happy, traveling all over promoting someone else's career, either, even if it was my spouse because the support never seemed to be reciprocated.
I hope you find your place, and I wish you the best;)
I thought she was lucky to find a guy like you and that you two seemed like two peas in a pod. But then during the second season when you two "reconciled" and you would sometimes hug her unexcpectedly or say she looked pretty it seemed forced...that's when I assumed things weren't right.
I felt really bad for Kathy when she said she felt you didn't love her...like I said in a way earlier post you remind me of an ex..maybe you didn't love her. Maybe you can't. Some people aren't capable or can't ever give their partner the love they crave. Anyway, at least physically you always seemed there for her. (I don't mean THAT way)
Sorry, I'm rambling...
Matt,
I don't know you and I don't know anything about your situation with Kathy. What I do know is that in divorce money is the devil and salvaging a friendship is the biggest challenge. Hate and resentment can consume us and most people lose. It takes a heart of a true champion and a hero to surmount the emotions, resentments and hail of other attrocities that fall after a divorce. Your relationship with Kathy is your business and should never have become public but since it has I offer my love support and understanding from a lifetime of watching events like these unfold. There will be a time when you two will have the opportunity to reconcile. I wish you and Kathy the very best. Remember there is life after divorce. It is up to you and Kathy what you do with it.
Hi, Matt--
I really think Kathy is hilarious and love her show but in the first season, I wondered how long her husband would tolerate playing a supporting role in her career. I know that probably sounds very old-school but I think Kathy probably wondered this too. I think *something* would have come up to make her feel paranoid about the relationship and this issue would have come up, eventually.
Just know that even those of us who love Kathy's humor see that there are two sides to every story and we aren't passing judgment on anyone.
I wish you both peace and wellness now and in the future.
Why have a blog if you want to just take the actual high road. Also, in response to the "her gays" comment, her ratings are up 53 percent this year over last. So something is going right.
Hope all goes well for you also. People will forget who you are soon enough.
I, too, have a hard time buying into your notion of not releasing a public statement yet here you are on your blog releasing a public statement in response to the episode.
I think your credibility and integrity are questionable at best and you certainly are taking the cowardly way out by claiming the high road when in reality, the high road would have been "no comment". Or at the very least, not getting on a soap box and claiming to not release a statement.
I'm sorry but I have to call you on your hypocrisy. You can't have it both ways and not have people cry BS.
Lastly, if you've shared it with "friends, family, and acquaintances", why do you act as if it's some huge secret that you can't divulge? I can't help but to question your motives especially considering that acquaintances aren't exactly confidants and not that dissimilar to your blog readers.
Your words ring hollow, your "apology" flat. There's no indignation that Kathy is slandering you. Just the indignation that she dare speak of your divorce.
Why can't people just take responsibility for their actions? We've all done things we are ashamed of.
As someone whose marriage also broke up over trust issues, I can understand that it's about more than the money.
I suspect that what you were DOING with the money behind her back was also a major issue.
Of course, none of us have any real knowledge about why this marriage broke up, or anyone else's marriage for that matter. One thing is for sure, though: without trust, there can be no real relationship.
It seems to me that this split was about trust more than about money.
I strongly suspect that what you were DOING with the money behind K's back was also a major issue.
Of course I have no idea, nor does anyone else except you and your ex. I do know that without trust, there can be no genuine relationship.
Just my .02. Good luck with your training.
wow, okay I just left a pretty harsh comment above ... It's not like me to come on some total stranger's personal blog and make judgmental comments about their marriage and divorce, I guess I'm still working out some "issues" from my own. heh.
What I also neglected to mention is that your ex should not have gone on Larry King in the first place and spilled one side of the story. It put you in a terrible position and it was wrong.
Anyway, I apologize. I wish you well.
Hi Matt!
I just stumbled across your website so I realize my comments about your divorce are a bit late but I'll post them anyway. Since there is a new season of My Life on the DList currently on Bravo, it got me thinking about you which was why I googled your name and found your website in the first place. I'm a big fan of Kathy's comedy however, I've always thought the way she threw you under the bus after your divorce was not cool. I remember seeing her talk about it on the View and thought it was so tacky because she could have just left it at "there were trust issues" instead of giving specifics about money stolen which I tend to not believe in the first place and then to say on her Bravo show that she never thought you loved her etc was ridiculous. Anybody watching the DList with you on it could clearly tell that you loved her and also wanted to protect her. She has a right to hurt and feel the way she feels but considering the fact that she is the public figure and you arent, I think she should have kept the details private instead of basically ruining your reputation on TV.
Anyway, I miss you on the show. I loved your sense of humor and how you seemed to ground Kathy.
Anyway, I wish you good luck and am glad to read in some of your blogs that you seem to be doing really well and you look wonderful too! Keep up the good work!
Take care,
Carolyn
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